Struggling with my self-confidence

This blog post is going to be a bit more personal because blogging is not always about Fashion, Movies or Art. It’s not always about the good things in life. Having a blog gives you the opportunity to write about the things nobody talks about – your thoughts, your problems, your fears. And that’s what I’m going to do today because writing helps me to handle certain things.

I’ve always been a shy person with a more or less low self-confidence and I always had problems talking to strangers or people I just met because I never wanted to say something wrong. I always thought too much about what the people could think of me and if they liked me. Some of my friends told me that I shouldn’t overthink and just be the person I am, but that’s easier said than done. I remember in 2015, I was at a point where I nearly lost all of my self-confidence. There was a person in my life who told me that I wasn’t good enough, that I should change myself to be worth it. I believed in what this person said and I felt horrible. I felt alone and useless. After a long time of self-doubts and pressure, I dumped this person out of my life but the things he saied were still in my head. Fortunately, I met some great people who helped me to feel better and I’m really thankful for that. I learned to laugh again and to accept myself as much as I can, even though it’s still hard sometimes. It’s a long process to rebuild your self-confidence and to make it even stronger than before. I still have a long way to go, but if you want it, you can always do it! 

But let’s get real, after all I think I’ll never be this extroverted kind of person who talks with everyone no matter what, because that’s just not me and that’s totally ok. There will always be this quiet part of me, even when I’m an old grey lady. But I’m really trying my best to get more open and to believe in me no matter what. And I will never give up! 🙂

What I also want to mention is that beside my boyfriend, friends and family, Old Hollywood and especially Audrey Hepburn are a big help for me. Even though I’m not confident enough to talk a mile a minute in front of strangers yet, I’m confident enough to live my vintage dream and to share it with other people. That’s also why I’m here, why I’m writing this blog and I definitely don’t regret it.

Before I end this post, here are 5 notes to myself and to everyone who struggles with self-confidence or shyness (or to everyone who can relate to this topic in any way):

  1. Remove the toxic people out of your life and surround yourself with people who truly love you.
  2. Try to love and believe in yourself, because you’re wonderful just the way you are. I know it’s hard but you can do it!
  3. Do the things you love and be the person you want to be no matter what others say!
  4. Don’t forget that we are all just human beings. Everyone has its fears and problems, so try to get more open and talk with the people around you. And if it takes you some time, it’s ok but please don’t hide yourself.
  5. And always remember: You’re not alone with this! 

Thank you for reading guys! This topic is something really personal and important to me and I just had to talk about it. If you have the same problems or if you can relate to anything, contact me! I would really love to talk to you ❤ Lots of love,

Your Shirinatra xx

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Vera says:

    Wonderful post! I struggle with shyness myself too, and I think my blog helps to express myself. Also, I love your blog ♥︎

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    1. Shirinatra says:

      Oh, thank you so much lovely! I totally agree with you in this point, it really helps me too 🙂 I can only return that ❤ And I can't wait for your next blogposts.

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